Parenting

It is extremely difficult that Tyse is my first and that he is delayed. It’s hard for me to talk to Moms who have developing children especially if they have a child close to the age of Tyse. If I was a mother to a developing child then I would talk about all the wonderful things he is doing now. Its part of parenting, but watching another Mom go through that happiness that I longed for is hard. I am so happy for them, I’m glad that they do not have to go through my situation because I would see a lot of good Moms break down or wouldn’t be able to handle it. But my heart fills with sadness at the same time because I have to watch my child struggle. Tyse has taught me many things this past year and I’m sure he will teach me many more. One of the things I learned to embrace is every moment. I get excited when Tyse grabs a toy, coos at someone other than me or Todd, puts his lips on a side of a cup, or just does something out of his ordinary. I do not know what God is trying to teach me, but it must be something good. The one good shocker that I think may shock you all is my husband, Todd. When I was pregnant with Tyse, he told me he wanted to only have two kids, and before we got married I said four and he agreed. I was so upset because I really want four children. Anyway, after we had Tyse a couple of months later he said to me, “I want five kids.” I laughed and replied, “That’s one too many for me. I only want four.” But you think being in our situation. We wouldn’t want anymore children, but actually we want even more. We both said, “Hey if we can handle this, then we can handle anything.”

I am supposed to have twins. I’m next in the generation. I often joke around with my Mom and Todd saying, “Watch, God will give me twins next time I get pregnant to make up for our situation now. In one way, we get to enjoy the little things and then if we have twins then we don’t get to enjoy anything. So all the milestones that parents talk about, we had three kids and missed them all.” But Todd and I say we don’t mind. I hope I have twins. I think that would be wonderful. Anything God gives is wonderful.

Wow, what a surprise! This was awesome to see Tyse playing with the basket and dumping it.






Children are expensive, but a delayed child is even more expensive. I shop more at my local home medical store than I do my own grocery store. I live online so I can talk to other delayed Moms or order expensive products that I will never find in any department store. I stay home because child care would cost double and because Tyse has therapy three times a week. I see his doctors, nurses, therapists more than I see my family and friends. I spend lots of time on the phone during the week calling his nurses asking questions. Hopefully, we will get some kind of help we are looking for. It is well needed. Todd has a good job, and we are making it as of now, but once he gets older than he will need big items such as wheelchair, lift, bath equipment…etc.